The Importance of Nervous System Regulation

In today’s fast-paced world, our nervous systems are constantly bombarded with stressors, making it essential to engage in techniques that promote regulation, grounding, and self-soothing. When our nervous system is dysregulated, it can manifest as anxiety, irritability, fatigue, or even physical discomfort. By incorporating simple yet effective nervous system regulation techniques, we can cultivate a sense of calm, resilience, and emotional balance. Below are several powerful techniques to help regulate your nervous system and enhance overall well-being.

8 Nervous System Regulation Techniques

  1. Resourcing: Creating a Safe Space

    • Safe Place Visualization: Imagine a real or imagined location where you feel completely secure and at ease. Engage your senses by visualizing the sights, sounds, and sensations associated with this place.

    • Soothing Touch: Place your right hand under your left arm and your left hand on your right shoulder (known as the container hold). This can create a comforting sense of containment and boundary reinforcement.

  2. Deep Breathing: Practicing slow, intentional breathing can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and promote relaxation.

    • Try the 4-7-8 technique: Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds and exhale for 8 seconds.

    • Use box breathing: Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, and hold again for 4 seconds.

  3. Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR): This technique involves tensing and then relaxing different muscle groups to release stored tension.

    • Start from your feet and move up to your head, squeezing each muscle group for a few seconds before letting go.

    • Focus on the contrast between tension and relaxation to deepen the sense of relief.

  4. Grounding Techniques: Staying Present in the Moment

    • Focus on Physical Sensations: Notice your feet on the floor, the weight of your body in the chair, or the sensation of your hands resting on your lap.

    • 5-4-3-2-1 Method: Identify five things you see, four things you touch, three things you hear, two things you smell, and one thing you taste to engage your senses fully.

  5. Cold Exposure: Splashing cold water on your face or holding an ice pack to your chest stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate emotions. This quick technique can shift your body into a calmer state by triggering a physiological relaxation response.

  6. Mindful Movement: Engage in activities like yoga, stretching, or tai chi to encourage body awareness and relaxation.

    • These gentle movements help release tension, improve circulation, and bring awareness to the body's natural rhythms.

  7. Vagal Regulation: Activating the Body’s Relaxation Response

    • Humming or Voo Sound: The vibration from humming or making a low "Voo" sound stimulates the vagus nerve and promotes relaxation.

    • Chanting: The rhythmic quality of chanting can help regulate breathing, reduce stress, and create a sense of calm.

  8. Self-Havening: Gently rub your arms, face, or hands in a soothing motion to activate the brain’s calming pathways.

    • This self-soothing technique promotes a sense of safety and comfort, reducing stress and anxiety.

By practicing these simple yet powerful techniques regularly, you can build resilience, reduce stress, and enhance your ability to self-regulate. These accessible methods can be integrated into your daily routine whenever you feel overwhelmed or dysregulated. Whether through resourcing, grounding, vagal regulation, or mindful movement, these practices empower you to cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and your nervous system.






Giving and Receiving Love

Love and connection are two foundational human attachment needs, and both play an important role in well-being. Building and maintaining a culture of fondness, love, and connection in a romantic relationship is crucial and does not come without effort. Love is not only a feeling, but an action – it requires effort, thoughtfulness, understanding, and intentional choice. Let’s explore some ways you can be intentional about showing love in your relationship.

1. What is attachment?

Attachment theory is the idea that humans form a bond with their caregiver(s) in early life, and these relationships impact the ways people connect and interact with others, as well as how people view themselves, throughout life. This includes emotional responsiveness, trust, and self-image. Attachment patterns and behaviors are not concrete, though, meaning that they can change over time or even look different in the context of different relationships. In a romantic relationship, it is important for partners to create a sense of safety, trust, and security with one another, and one way to bolster these elements is to show love.

2. How do you like to receive love?

Knowing how you best receive love is essential. Take some time to reflect: When do you feel the most loved by your partner or loved ones? What can you identify that contributes to feeling loved in those moments? What makes you feel loved? And, have you told your partner these things? Or expressed appreciation or acknowledgment? Often, we tend to give love in the ways we most like to receive love, which can be a clue. Though the love languages are not the only options for what counts as giving or receiving love, they can be a helpful resource when it comes to identifying some of the main categories that resonate with you.

3. How do you show love?

Understanding how you show love, as well as what makes your friends, partner, and family members feel loved gives you an opportunity to tailor your expressions of love to resonate most deeply with them. Ask them what makes them feel most loved by you!

4. What can get in the way of giving or receiving love?

Do you notice yourself deflecting or blocking love? Sometimes, it does not feel safe to accept or show love. Factors that negatively impact a person’s sense of emotional safety are likely tied to difficulty giving and receiving love. Some common factors include:

● Family of origin experiences

● Previous relationship experiences

● Past trauma

● Fear of rejection

● Fear of intimacy

● Lack of trust

● Communication issues

● Personal insecurities or low self-esteem

If you have noticed a sense of disconnection from your loved ones, it might be time to explore where that could be coming from, how to create emotional safety, and how to strengthen your relationships. Whether you’re wanting to navigate these challenges in an individual setting, with your partner, or in a family context, we are here to help at Bridger Peaks Counseling. Contact us today to find out more or schedule an appointment.